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Just a quick post with a couple quotes that I align with.

Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing. – Abraham Lincoln
ht: Nelson Searcy

The True Testament of a Man’s Character is how He Treats Someone who can Do Him Absolutely No Good. – Samuel Johnson
ht: a comment from this post

If a man has any greatness in him, it comes to light, not in one flamboyant hour, but in the ledger of his daily work.
— Beryl Markham

That is all…

Read my preface here. These are PRICELESS.

A good leadership coach will… help you close the gap between your potential and your performance. He will point you toward a preferred future and inspire you to do everything in your power to achieve it.

Evaluated experience is what enables you to improve your performance.

Learn everything you can from everybody you can.

Look for an environment where you will be coached, not just paid.

What you don’t know about yourself can put a lid on your leadership.

Leaders are learners.

You are responsible for sharing what you do know with the leaders around you.

We set young leaders up for a fall if we encourage them to envision what they can do before they consider the kind of person they should be. – R. Ruth Burton

You can lead without character.. But character is what makes you a leader worth following.

Your accomplishments as a leader will make your name known. Your character will determine what people associate with your name.

Character is the will to do what’s right even when it’s hard.

The irony of being a leader with character is that your willingness to do what is right may jeopardize your forward momentum. (my own quote: momentum is not always a sign of progress).

Predeciding to do what’s right will cost you. It may actually be an obstacle on your career path.

It is on the mountiantop that leaders often abandon the convictions and humility that got them there.

Whenever you find a man who says he doesn’t believe in real right or wrong, you will find the same man going back on this a moment later. He may break his promise to you, but if you try breaking one to him he’ll be complaining “It’s not fair” before you can say Jack Robinson. – C.S. Lewis

It is not uncommon to find successful leaders playing by a different set of rules.

Leaders worth following don’t make the rules.

Your position will prompt people.. to lend you their hands. Your moral authority will inspire people to lend you their hearts.

Moral authority is the credibility you earn by walking your talk.

You can manage people without moral authority. But you cannot influence them.

Leaders worth following do not pretend to live in two different worlds. There is no discrepancy between their professional and private lives. They know the futility of compartmentalizing their lives.

If there is a perceived difference between what you expect from others and what you expect from yourself, it will eventually erode your influence.

If you require honesty from those you work with, then honesty must be a trait that characterizes you in all your roles.

Character is not made in crisis; it is only exhibited.

andy stanley next generation leader

I don’t think this is plagiarism – these are all quotes from Andy Stanley’s book that are forming me as a leader right now. Seriously, if you have time to read one book and you are involved in leadership (or want to be) this is one book that you should read – it is blowing my mind.

What is success… in your position?
[what is] your giftedness? Your sweet spot?
…enjoy what you do.

You can’t aim for a target until you have identified it.

Striving for balance forces a leader to invest time and energy in aspects of leadership where he will never succeed. It is not realistic to strive for balance within the sphere of our personal leadership abilities.

…discover your zone and stay there. Then delegate everything else.

You are most valuable where you add the most value – John Maxwell
And once we find it it’s even more vital that we stay there.

The secret of concentration is elimination. – Dr. Howard Hendricks

Devoting a little of yourself to everything means committing a great deal of yourself to nothing.

The primary reason we do too much is that we have never taken the time to discover that portion of what we do that makes the biggest difference.

Misalignment is expensive.

Once you step outside of your zone, don’t attempt to lead.

Where there’s no progress, there’s no growth. If there’s no growth, there’s no life. Environments void of change are eventually void of life.

The leader is the one who has the courage to act on what he sees.

My thoughts: What needs to change in our organization / what needs to change in me?

A leader is someone who has the courage to say publicly what everyone else is whispering privately.

Next generation leaders are those who would rather challenge what needs to change and pay the price than remain silent and die on the inside.

…leadership requires the courage to challenge what is for the sake of what could be.

Leaders provide a mental picture of a preferred future and then ask people to follow them there.

Leaders worth following are always careful. They are careful because they genuinely care for those who have chosen to follow.

Don’t be afraid to embrace a problem you cannot afford to solve.

Opportunity does not equal obligation. – Mike Nappa

Most of us lead busy but undisciplined lives. – Jim Collins

When someone refuses to face reality, we call it denial. We say that person is sick. They refuse to face the facts.
[we tend to] put a positive spin on everything imaginable, while ignoring evidence to the contrary.
And while there is a general awareness that things are not going well, the average church attendee is content to show up once a week, do his time, and pretend that all is fine.
Turning an organization around starts with discovering truth.

My thoughts: Do I want to spend my life “facilitating the dreams of others”? What are my dreams? What could be? What should be?

The goal of leadership is not to eradicate uncertainty, but rather to navigate it.

As you gain clarity, you gain influence.

Two things happen when we pretend. First we close ourselves off from the input of others [isolation/pride]. Second, we expose our insecurity to the people we have asked to follow us. Pretending erodes respect much quicker than an admission of uncertainty. Uncertainty exposes a lack of knowledge. Pretending exposes a lack of character.

Pencil you plans. Write you vision in ink.

I believe providing feedback is the most cost-effective strategy for improving performance and instilling satisfaction. -Ken Blanchard

My thoughts: we need consistent, immediate & honest evaluation, feedback & criticism.

We have a tendency to measure ourselves against the people around us. They become our point of reference. A good coach will evaluate your performance against your potential.
…if we are wise enough to listen, they will help us go further, faster.

Every follower is a volunteer.

Southwest Church Planters Eric Beeman
This past week was the monthly Southwest Church Planters Forum. This was my second visit (here’s my first) and it was really cool – Jen got to come with me this time, which always makes it better. It was such a relief to go to something a little more stress relieving after last weeks CMA District Conference. Once again, Pat & Oscars was on the menu (those breadsticks are a killer! literally). My good friend, Eric led worship and this month Hal Seed, pastor of New Song Community Church in Oceanside, Ca was our speaker. (by the way they are rockin’ the CCB website, not my favorite but apparently it’s working for them). Here’s my notes on his talk (italics added for emphasis and my thoughts are in parentheses):

Leadership Stamina: Staying the Course (Hal Seed)

Persevering…

  1. Heb 12:1-3 It is always easier to quit than persevere.
  2. Ga 6:9-10 It is always easier to “grow weary” that to persevere. (I got distracted on this one so it could be wrong).
  3. Phil 3:13-14 Paul’s strategy for staying the course was to look forward not back. To keep his stamina, Paul did whatever he needed to do.

Your Job:
Of all the jobs God has assigned you as a leader, the most important one is self leadership.

The Three Most Draining Circumstances of a Leader:

  1. Dissapointment
  2. Conflict
  3. Success (adrenaline wears off quickly)

Why Church Planting is Draining:

  1. Spiritual Warfare – Eph 6:12
  2. Often there are few people praying – Col 4:3-4
  3. Usually there is a lack of commitment
  4. Your job is about people
  5. Church planters have much bigger dreams than most others (thus more disappointment when those dreams are not reached, or reached soon enough)

Minimizing the Drain:

  1. Listen to criticism at the right time (not right before events, etc. I actually believe the best time to change things for the better are ASAP. How many times have you been in a church service and said, oh I hope we aren’t doing that again next service… well, then DON’T. If I had my way we’d completely evaluate the worship experience immediately after our 6pm Sat. and make any changes for the next morning).
  2. Give grace on Sunday & Monday (again, I agree, but if we’re going to get better, we’ve got to catch things when they’re fresh. Pastors have a tough job, maybe one of the most personally draining, but we chose it. We’ve got to get over that and realize that presenting the [insert your area of ministry] Word of God in a relevant and passionate way each week in an effective way is crucial, and without measuring standards there will be no growth).
  3. Resist the temptation to give in to depression – Phil 4:8, Ps 103:1

Maximizing the Gain:

  1. Pray joyfully (as opposed to praying in fear, desperation, rambling on and on)
  2. Make a list of things that fill or energize you (I have to do this)
  3. Exercise, Diet, and Sleep are important (amen!)
  4. Learn from others (I call this staying teachable, the Bible calls it humility, either way, probably the hardest thing for pastors to do – God help us!)
  5. Get out of town! Dan 9 (spiritual warfare)
  6. Borrow great ideas (I agree with the footnote that you don’t always borrow – God has to have placed something in your heart that needs to be developed and expressed sometime)
  7. Keep your mind saturated with scripture (another one I need to work harder on)
  8. Remember these scriptures:
    2 Cor 1:3-4 Comfort
    1 Cor 10:13 Temptation
    2 Tim 2:22 Flee

Also, if you’re interested, last month’s guest was Matt Hannon & my notes from his talk on “Attributes of a Leader” are here.

Watching Good Morning America’s segment on New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s the skinny:

50% of resolutions fail

75% of people will set new years resolutions this year

25% won’t set resolutions

Here’s the professional advice:

  1. Don’t make too many
  2. Be realistic
  3. Research your goals
  4. Don’t give up
  5. Establish a buddy system

Are you making resolutions this year? My answer coming soon.